Thursday, September 18, 2008

Assumptions

Our minds have the need to “know.” When we don’t know, we make assumptions - they make us feel safer than not knowing. And we are pretty much always making assumptions. We assume that we know how someone is going to react to us. We assume that our efforts will or will not be successful. And not only do we believe our assumptions about what other people are thinking, but then we end up taking those assumptions personally and even end up resenting the person. To avoid assumptions, ask questions. It takes courage to trust the present moment, to allow other people to be exactly who they are, and to let life unfold according to its own plan… and it avoids a great deal of suffering.
-Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements [agreement 3: Don’t make assumptions]

Thoughts


Amber and I
Originally uploaded by carignan.

There are days when I feel so upset about what is going on in my life. It just doesn't seem like I really have anyway to fix it. Maybe the problems don't need to be fixed, but just accepted. I do have alot to be thankful for in my life, and it's not that. Maybe it's that I just have to much. I'd like to let go of some things, but it just might not ever get done, and that's something I just can't accept. I wish I had some support.

Monday, September 15, 2008

Something I should remember.

“Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment."


Benjamin Franklin